Though most men felt their penis size was average, many fell outside this “norm.” The disproportionate number of viral skin-to-skin STIs (HSV-2 and HPV) suggest size may play a role in condom slippage/breakage. Finally, men with below average penises fared significantly worse than other men on three measures of psychosocial adjustment. Men with below average penises were significantly more likely to identify as “bottoms” (anal receptive) and men with above average penises were significantly more likely to identify as tops (anal insertive). Men with above average penises were more likely to report HPV and HSV-2 (Fisher’s exact p ≤. Size was unrelated to condom use, frequency of sex partners, HIV status, or recent diagnoses of HBV, HCV, gonorrhea/Chlamydia/urinary tract infections, and syphilis. Seven percent of men felt their penis was “below average,” 53.9% “average,” and 35.5% “above average.” Penis size was positively related to satisfaction with size and inversely related to lying about penis size (all p <. Survey data from a diverse sample of 1,065 men who have sex with men were used to explore the association between perceived penis size and a variety of psychosocial outcomes. Yet, there has been little research among men who have sex with men assessing the association between penis size and social-sexual health. If you are craving for a bigger penis for yourself, or for your lovers, remember that ‘bigger is better’ is not always true.Larger penis size has been equated with a symbol of power, stamina, masculinity, and social status. To me, the idea that size is important in gay sex is just a myth. And I can promise you – if you are worried about your own size – that in bed, it’s not your partner’s length or girth but their performance that matters. Mental satisfaction is what it’s all about. Sex is not limited to physical intercourse. The love and the quality of the time you give each other means more than size. And from that, I’ve taken the very clear lesson that having sex is not just about the sex – it’s an important moment, which is only good when you feel safe with someone and your partner treats you well.įor me the kisses and embraces are the most important part. The law of averages means, of course, that most of the sex I’ve had has been with guys with an average penis. I simply can’t say that I have had better experience with larger guys. I’ve met plenty of guys in my time, of all different sizes, but honestly as a bottom I can’t agree that bigger is always better. Frankly I can say we had some of the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. Not shocked that it was anything unusual but only because of the mental picture he put in my mind.ĭespite this, I have to say I really enjoyed myself with him and the smaller-than-advertised size of his penis made no difference at all. So when we met in person I was a little shocked to see his little master. We chatted a lot on phone, including talking about sex and he boasted about his size a lot. My first relationship was with someone I met online was with a guy I met on Facebook. Can this size worship be one reason gay romances are so fragile? After this it seems everyone wants to put their hands in a new man’s underwear, wondering what new and big thing they will find there. I have often seen gay relationships fail after three or four sex meetings.